It sure would be wonderful if we could avoid the bumps, bruises, and pain that comes with growing, right?
Or would it?
In good times, we don't move until we're uncomfortable, much like we might wait until we're actually shivering before we put on a sweater. Often, some of our best results come from discomfort or even pain.
Every problem introduces a person to himself. (John McDonnell)
Imagine a rapidly flowing river replete with jagged rocks on the edge and smooth stones under the surface.
The stones are worn down by bumping up against one another and the water that rushes over them. Their beauty is amplified by sharp contrast to the roughly edged rocks sitting on the periphery, relatively unscathed.
The smooth stones weren't always smooth; it took many tumultuous years in the most powerful currents for them to be so polished.
Sure, you can buy a rock tumbler, but the result is just a bunch of smooth stones, without the beauty of the river and the latent potential in the rough rocks at the river's edge.
Smooth stones take time.